|Birth: ||Nov. 10, 1914|
|Death: ||Mar. 10, 1975|
Almost...not quite ready to write my thoughts about you. It all began with you. I just don't know how my mother did it without you. You passed when she needed you the most. She was just 23yrs...I'm amazed at what my mother gained from you in such short time....I'm still taking it all in. Don't know where to begin yet. You have been on my mind my entire life, so much I don't know.
P.S. I hope to get a picture of you and grandpa soon.
14 Feb 2010
I talk to my mom today, she must to have felt like I was giving her the third degree. However, I did find out some very interesting things about your life. Your birth name was Donja Merriweather, my mom could not remember your fathers name, all she knew his last name was Merriweather and that he was a full blood very dark-skin Seminole Indian. You were born in Gonzales TX (I have no clue of where that is at). You had 8 brothers and sisters. However, my Great Aunt Delilah was your only full sister, I guess that means you and Delahi were the only two fathered by Mr. Merriweather . Now, I do remember my Great Aunt Delilah but never Put two and two together. Growing up she would often talk about "Doni" or Donja I never knew that she was referring to you (Grandma Bea). I thought your name was Frances Beatrice. I asked my mom, how could you just change your name so easy. She said, she was not sure, but your birth name was Donja "Doni" Merriweather.
I learned that after the families house burned down in Gonzales Texas, the Merriweathers moved to Sequin Texas. My mom did not know exactly when you met Grandpa, but you met him at Randolph AFB, TX....it makes since Sequin TX is not that far from Randolph AFB, TX. Grandpa and you got married, you traveled with him to several Air Force Bases. My mom, Aunt Theresa, and Uncle Jr, were born in Chanute Field, in Illinois. Don't know the time frame it must to have been a while back. "Chaunute Field" vs" Chanute AF or AB" or any ending in Air Force. Will look up the history on that base. I do know is Chaunute Field is closed.
15 Feb 2010
In order for me to move forward I have to look back. I'm so sorry, the picture I
have of you is of poor quality and it is the only one Mama has of you. Mama was very hesitant about me removing your picture to scan. She said be careful that is the only picture I have of my Mama. She keeps it in a pretty pink frame on her nightstand. I then asked my Mama how could that be, you keep everything and I do me everything as in Christmas ornaments we made when we were children, anything of sentimental value she keeps. I never truly understood until now why she guards our childhood family photo albums like they are gold. We all get a kick out of her, we have to ask for permission to see our families photo albums. Then upon leaving her home we get a "pat-down" On many occasions, at some point we all were busted trying to slip a picture out of her photo album. We all thought it was funny, how she acted. I never once question why does Mama act like that?. A deep hurt she never speaks of-never.
Grandma I asked the question -- to Mama... Where are the pictures of you and grandpa? Where are the pictures of your childhood? I know you Grandpa travelled the world together, He retired from the USAF. I know you had to have kept a photo album. Grandma I asked the question--to Mama. I got a very short answer "That's all I have left of my Mama." I won't ever asked Mama again, I don't want to hurt her. I saw the pain an uneasiness in her. It was if after all these 30 plus years, she knew that I figured it out, and I knew to back off.
I often wondered why, the only Aunt that she was close to her was Aunt Delilah, your only full sister. She cared for Aunt Delilah until the end if she needed anything Mama was there. Mama never said a bad thing in front of us about your "other" sisters and brothers. However, we were never "encouraged" to get to know them either. Now I know why.. they hurt her deeply.
Grandpa passed away early Christmas morning-1974 and you passed away six months later. My mama was probably looked upon as a "a little girl" to your sisters Aunt Kat and Aunt Honey. Mama was just 23 when you past. Mama had me and Ronnie and your namesake to be on the way. Grandpa and you did not live an extravagant lifestyle, there was no will. However, I'm sure you had sentimental things that should have been past on to Mama. I know this. My theory is, in the chaos of it all your other sisters took things like photo albums and any thing of sentimental value, they took away all memories of you. Perhaps, they feel, your memory rightfully belongs to them. I just don't understand how people and family could be so cold. The day you passed my mom had to grow up real quick. She had to figure things out on her own. None, of the "other" sisters or brothers, never once stepped up to help out with your baby boy, my Uncle Jr. Grandma you need not worry, yes he is mentally disabled (autistic). However, he is doing fine, my mama continues to care for him. He is my Uncle but he is more like our "little-brother" as he is forever childlike. Uncle Jr. has lived with us and continues to live with Mama My mama never once hesitated when asked who is going to care for your beloved baby boy (Uncle Jr.)??? No one else, helped or offered to help her out. Mama never once complained she "just did"...and continues to do so.
Aunt Honey and Aunt Kat...it is clear as mud to me now they are bullies, I can see them now taking your sentimental belongings they should have left my mom. That is just the way they are --well known fact. As if what they do is "acceptable". A few years back, your sister Aunt Lacy passed away. My mom loved your sister Aunt Lacy and Uncle Bill. Aunt Lacy and Uncle Bill never had kids. Uncle Bill was nearly 90yrs old..grieving his beloved wife of over 60 yrs...So guess, who was in the Uncle Bill's and Aunt Lacy home? , Aunt Kat and Aunt Honey they took things of sentimental value like all of her clothes all of her belongs mainly clothes..Aunt Lacy was very stylish always. I witness, this with my own eyes. Aunt Lacy was not even buried yet and they were in the home so brazenly taking things. Again, acceptable behavior "That is just the way they are" Aunt Kat and Aunt Honey never once asked Uncle Bill his wishes. However, my thoughts at the time was, Aunt Lacy is their sister they have a right to her belongings and memories. Yes, that could be the case. I just never put two and two together. I did not think of them or maybe I forgot Aunt Kat and Aunt Honey are your sisters. Mama never talks bad about them to this day. She just never talks about them period. She will always remain respectful towards them. She was raised that way...Thank-you Grandma.
Grandma, in order to move forward. I have to look back. As painful, and unpretty things can be. Saying nothing says allot. So I won't ask mama again about pictures of you and Grandpa. I will continue to ask mama questions about you and Grandpas life. In a perfect world, maybe it is all just a big misunderstanding a phone call or visit could clear up. Not now, but in time. I will call Aunt Kat and Aunt Honey. I will not be ugly. Two wrongs don't make it right. I will ask them questions about you. So they know, you have a granddaughter who wonders and always will wonder about you. If they have photos of you and Grandpa and your children I would like to have a copy. Is that asking much?
Frank Meriweather (1893 - 1941)
Ada Coleman Jackson (1904 - 1976)
Rufus Alfred Blackmon (1901 - 1974)
Frances Meriweather Blackmon (1914 - 1975)
Boza Jackson (1923 - 1999)**
Noah Jackson (1927 - 1952)**
Fort Sam Houston National Cemetery
Plot: X, 0, 626
Maintained by: Doe✰Gurl
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Record added: Feb 25, 2000
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