|Birth: ||Dec. 2, 1944|
|Death: ||Jan. 26, 2013|
Wife to Paul D Canter "aka" CajunPaul
CARLYSS - Barbara Ann "Chambers" Canter, 68, passed away January 26, 2013 in a local hospital.
Mrs. Canter was a native of Bossier City, Louisiana and has lived in the Sulphur area since 1948. She and her husband traveled extensively across the United States and especially loved visiting lighthouses, exploring covered bridges, enjoying nature and taking the scenic route. Her hobbies included cross-stitching, reading romance novels and flower gardening.
Survivors include her husband of 34 years, Paul D. "Cajun Paul" Canter; son, James Ray Everett of Sulphur; brother, George Ronald Chambers of Carlyss; sister-in-heart, Carolyn "LaVergne" Smith of Moss Bluff; and cousin, George W. Chambers, III of Bossier City. She is preceded in death by her father, Jack Cooper Chambers and mother, Cleo Jeanette "Towns" Chambers
Cremation arrangements were entrusted to Hixson-Sulphur Memorial Funeral Home. On May 29, 2013 a private gathering will be held at Mimosa Pines Cemetery South for her remains to be interred with her parents.
Barbara Ann "Chambers" Canter
Her name did not identify who she was. From an early age she was noticeable. She wanted the special attention and if she didn't get it she could be poutie faced. Her parents loved her dearly but didn't do her any favors. As she grew into her teenage years they continued to give into her.
At age 16 she married Jimmie Ray Everett, was she ready for it, not really but she thought she was. But she was pregnant and they married and just 3 months later she had her son James. At 16 she realized she wasn't as grown up as she thought she was. She knew nothing of taking care of a baby and between the baby and a meddling mother-in-law she reached the end of her rope and soon divorced Jimmie and allowing him to have custody of their son. At best she was a better part-time Mom.
As time went on she went into a 2nd marriage to Wesley Ray Beason. In this one she would soon find out that their vows of marriage meant very little to him. Feeling trapped she stayed married to Wesley for 12 ½ years.
Her life up to this point has not gone exactly picture perfect, she married one because she was pregnant and a second marriage she loved him but he loved being unfaithful.
She gave me the best 34 years of my life and I did my best to give back to her the love she gave to me 10 fold. I could not have ever wanted a better person in my life. All I ever ask of her is to let me love her with all my heart. In 34 years she never failed to amaze me and my heart always felt full and happy.
As she lay there in the hospital dying I could not think of a better place I could be than by her side holding her hand, talking to her, telling her how much I love her and will always love her. Her struggle for happiness was accomplished. For months before the end came she realized how dearly I have loved her all these years and I would stop at nothing to give her the care and love she so deserved.
As I stood there and she took her last breath and watch her last heart beat, I knew my life would become empty and the void could never be filled.
Love like we had comes only once in a lifetime and my heart died with her that day.
She will truly be missed.
Her loving husband
Modern Day Cajun Love Story
It was a warm fall day in September the year of 1977 when without warning love began its journey into the Cajun boys heart. The day would start much like any other, showing up for work and getting his crew in the warehouse started for the days work. Come mid morning when he usually meets with other Department Managers for morning coffee a strange pull had began working on him unbeknown to him. That morning as he walked into the workplace cafeteria and young lady catches his eye, she is sitting alone and sobbing. As he approaches her realizes its a young lady from the accounting office of which he has in the past had brief casual encounters with. He proceeds to excuse himself and ask if he may join her, in hopes helping to offer her some assistance. Little did he know that love had began pulling on his heart. After the brief encounter the two parted ways, but it would not be the last meeting of the day. As the day wore on the Cajun boy just can't get the young lady's problem out of his mind and heart. He later makes his way to the accounting department using an invoice as an excuse to be there. It is then he proposes she meet him on the following Saturday for a movie, with the explanation it would be so they can talk more about her problem. The young lady reluctantly accepts and does so in fact meet him. During the movie "The Other side of the Mountain" they sit to the rear of the theatre discussing her situation. As the movie ends they part ways not knowing if they will actually ever meet again. Three days later the Cajun boy runs into the young lady at work, but by no accident. He ask that she join him at the local beach at sunset so they could again discuss her situation. The young lady has no idea what is in store for her, but she accepts. The young lady's husband during this time was an emotionally abusive man who constantly had affairs on her for most of their 13 years of marriage.
The evening arrives and just before sunset the young man arrives at the beach not knowing if she will actually show up. It isn't long before he realizes she is actually already there and waiting at the waters edge. As he proceeds toward her his heart begins to pound harder and harder, not ever being in love before he begins to wonder if he is having a heart attack. It seems as if there is no room inside his body for him to breathe, his heart seems to have swollen so large he can hardly breath.
As they stand at the waters edge watching the sun lower and the moon begin to glow across the water, he struggles to find the words he wishes to speak. It is just then he begins softly to ask her if there was a way for her to be happy again would she be open to it, by then she is looking puzzled at this young man as if to say "What" ?
He struggles a bit more and explains that he wishes to help her get away from this person to whom she is married to, he explains he would be willing to get her a lawyer and find her a place to live if she would be accepting to marry him. Without hesitation and knowing very little about this crazy young man she actually accepts.
Over the next year the young man attempts to show her what someone who truly loves someone is suppose to do and how you treat the person you love.
Upon the day of her divorce being final at 10 AM that morning the young man had already made arrangements for their marriage at 6 PM that same day.
Their marriage was one that only a princess could dream of. The young man gave to her his full and total attention for the next 34 years, unconditional and without hesitation. The young lady would never want for anything again, and would always feel the love he had for her, offering to give his own life to save hers in the end. Never feeling love before this young lady came into his life in the end when he looses her he is feeling lost and no longer needed. He had wrapped his life around hers so tightly that you could not tell where one life started and the other one ended. Today he struggles to feel needed again and feels pain and anger with in the heart that once felt but only love. These are emotions that he is not use to and he is not use to dealing with no one to hold on to. Now instead of a heart so swollen he can't breath he feels a great hole and emptiness where his heart once was.
Of course that Cajun Boy was me and the Young Lady was my Darling Barbara.
As I continue to struggle and deal with my loss, I hope someday the anger and pain will dwindle, but the love I felt for her will never do so for she is so embedded in me that without that love I fear I would no longer exist myself. She is my yesterday, today and tomorrow. We can not be separated even in Death.
I know someday my pain will ease, but it will never die, I would not want it to. For now that I know the pain it helps me feel alive again and reminds me of what I lost, a most beautiful lady and a great soul who deserved all the love she gave in return ten fold of which I desperately tried to do.
At least I can have comfort in knowing she died knowing what true unconditional love really was.
Goodbye My Darling, you will never be forgotten.
Your loving Cajun Boy.
Jack Cooper Chambers (1912 - 1998)
Cleo Jeanette Towns Chambers (1918 - 2001)
Note: The Nickname "Doodle" was given to her by her Father.
Mimosa-Pines South Cemetery
Plot: Buried with her Parents: Jack & Cleo "Towns" Chambers
Created by: CajunPaul
Record added: Jan 24, 2013
Find A Grave Memorial# 104076192
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