|Birth: ||Oct. 16, 1951|
|Death: ||Oct. 16, 2012|
Terry Wayne Blair was the 1st born son of Glenda (Tierce) and Frank Wayne Blair, born Oct 16, 1951 in Aumsville, Marion County, Oregon. He also had a sister, Jan, and a brother, Mickey. Terry attended and graduated from Cascade High School in Turner, Oregon in 1969. He attended Oregon State University in the Fall of 1969, but felt he wasn't quite ready for college yet, so worked instead on his parents' farm, full time. He met Kathie on July 5th, 1970 and they started going steady one month later. They became engaged Dec 5th, 1970, and were married on Dec 29th, 1970. Terry continued to work for his parents while his wife worked for the State's Motor Vehicles Division as a file clerk. The couple lived, at first, in an apartment in Salem. After Kathie became pregnant they moved to a duplex in Keizer, a suburb of Salem. Kathie worked until two weeks before their baby was due, a week after their 1st anniversary, on Jan 2nd, 1972, but the baby was going to come when he wanted, which wasn't until Jan 18th, 1972. They named him Anthony. He would be the only child from their marriage and both Kathie's & Terry's only child. Terry worked the green chain gang at a lumber mill in Idanha for a month, but the job didn't work out. Their marriage had many problems and the couple separated once, in May, 1972, then Terry found a job as a driver for a gravel company, hoping things would get better, but too many issues had come up and, in mid August, 1972, the couple separated and divorced. Terry enlisted into the Air Force in 1973 but was discharged due to unknown issues. He remarried briefly, then divorced. He later met Joan who was a bank teller, a divorced woman with three children. They married in @1977 and lived in Aumsville. Terry's only son had moved back to Oregon in 1976 so he could see him every other weekend, and watch him grow up. His marriage to Joan ended in divorce in early 1979. It was after this that he ran into a woman who lived on her parents' neighboring farm, and who had attended high school with him briefly as she was three years younger. Time had made a difference, however, and Terry and Karen Kremer began to date each other, realizing that they were meant for each other and, with that, they married. Terry told me it was the happiest time of his life, although they weren't able to have children together. They were deeply in love, however, which was what mattered most of all. Tragically, Karen had the same genetic problem as her father, which had caused heart failure for him at a young age. Now, that same genetic problem presented itself in Karen, what is referred to as a "Triple A" (Abdominal Aortic Aneurysm), in which a main aorta to the heart suddenly ruptures. ("Without immediate intervention, the patient can die." according to medical references searched out on line, and according to my physician as my father has this condition) Karen died in 2001 at the age of 46, a month before her 47th birthday. Terry was beside himself with grief. About 6 weeks after her loss, he left Oregon without telling anyone where he was going. Anthony and his wife had a date to come down to visit him; they arrived, only to find an empty house. We finally found he had moved to Soap Lake, WA., where he tried to begin anew. He worked a number of jobs but nothing seemed to work out for him, including finding anyone to care about again. He did briefly remarry, but it again ended in divorce. (We later found that he'd told her that everyone in his family was dead, which, I think meant that everyone he cared about was dead to him, although I don't understand why he abandoned his son.) He was very depressed, had sold many personal items to make ends meet, and finally ended his life on his 61st birthday. At first, no one looked for family members as he'd said they all were deceased, but someone finally did contact his poor mother, who had lost her younger son and her husband all too recently. Terry had left a note, of sorts. He wanted his ashes buried with Karen's but that wasn't possible, so his mother scattered them at Karen's grave, the next best thing. Terry is survived by his mother, Glenda Blair, his sister, Janet, and his only son, Anthony (from his 1st marriage), as well as numerous nieces and nephews. Terry's father passed in 2009 and his younger brother passed in 2010. He had become terribly depressed after Karen's sudden death in 2001 and never got over it, wanting to be with her. Hope he got what he wanted so badly. May he Rest In Peace.
It has been difficult to decide whether to finally give the actual cause of his death or not, but it caused those who knew him so much pain that I felt something should be said. Please try to think twice before deciding to take your own life. The pain you are feeling is nothing compared to the pain that will be felt by those you leave behind. I had to tell our son that his father was dead; it upset him very much and affected him in ways I don't know about as he won't discuss it with me. His mother is devastated, as is his sister, who now has lost both of her brothers. It is just such a shame as he left behind his mother, sister and only son, plus nieces, nephews and many others who cared about him.
Sep 19, 2014
Frank Wayne Blair (1933 - 2009)
Karen L. Kremer Blair (1954 - 2001)
Terry Wayne Blair (1951 - 2012)
Mickey Lee Blair (1954 - 2010)*
Cremated, Ashes scattered.
Specifically: Ashes will be scattered at Karen's grave.
Created by: Kathie L. Webb Blair
Record added: Oct 23, 2012
Find A Grave Memorial# 99492757