|Birth: ||Jun. 28, 1995|
Kowloon, Hong Kong
|Death: ||Sep. 13, 2012|
I am very much impressed by all those who have visited Phyllis' memorial around her birthday of June 28. Your kindness is very much appreciated. These few days are somewhat difficult, as the pain and sorrow of missing Phyllis emerges again.
All your kind words and prayers do help relieve the pain. I may not be able to express my gratitude to each of you for your thoughtfulness and kindness. What I can do is to keep you and your loved ones in my prayers and thoughts.
A Memorial Mass is arranged on the June 28, 2014 at the Chapel of the Salesian Missionary House! Do join us if you can.
Phyllis was a dear friend and much-loved daughter to Ronald and Betty, and sister to Agatha.
Phyllis passed away just one week after she went abroad for studies. It was all too sudden that she left without leaving a word. Though more than a year has passed, she is in our mind each and every moment. The loss of her leaves a deep hallow in our hearts that cannot be filled by anything in this world!
She was a very beautiful and diligent girl and an incredibly bright spirit. She lived every day of her life to the absolute fullest.
She is now in the Heavenly grace. Please pray and leave flowers for her.
Apart from the Cheung Sha Wan Catholic Cemetary, Phyllis' photo is also placed at the Memorial Corner of the Mary Help of Christian Chapel inside the Kowloon Tang Keng Po Secondary School at Tin Kwong Road. The Chapel opens daily from 9 am to 9 pm for prayers and Eucharist Adoration.
She is kept in our prayers and remembrances.
Your prayers and remembrances are mostly appreciated.
Special thanks are dedicated to Bill who has kindly sponsored Phyllis' memorial.
If we could visit heaven, even for a day, maybe for a moment, the pain would go away. We'd put our arms around you and whisper words so true, that living life without you is the hardest thing to do! No matter how we spend our days, no matter what we do, no morning dawns or evening falls, when we don't think of you! Loving & Missing you forever <3<3<3
Loving for One More Day
When we lose someone we love
It seems that time stands still.
What moves through us is a silence,
A quiet sadness,
One more word,
One more touch,
We may not understand why
You left this earth so soon,
Or why you left before we were
Ready to say good-bye,
But little by little.
We begin to remember
Not just that you died,
But that you lived.
And that your life gave us memories
Too beautiful to forget.
We will see you again some day,
In a heavenly place where
There is no parting
A place where there are
No words that mean good-bye.
A Bereaved Parents Wish List
1. I wish my child hadn't died. I wish I had him back.
2. I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak my child's name. My child lived and was very important to me. I need to hear that he was important to you also.
3. If I cry and get emotional when you talk about my child I wish you knew that it isn't because you have hurt me. My child's death is the cause of my tears. You have talked about my child, and you have allowed me to share my grief. I thank you for both.
4. I wish you wouldn't "kill" my child again by removing his pictures, artwork, or other remembrances from your home.
5. Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't shy away from me. I need you now more than ever.
6. I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you; but, I also want you to hear about me. I might be sad and I might cry, but I wish you would let me talk about my child, my favorite topic of the day.
7. I know that you think of and pray for me often. I also know that my child's death pains you, too. I wish you would let me know those things through a phone call, a card or note, or a real big hug.
8. I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over in six months. These first months are traumatic for me, but I wish you could understand that my grief will never be over. I will suffer the death of my child until the day I die.
9. I am working very hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand that I will never fully recover. I will always miss my child, and I will always grieve that he is dead.
10. I wish you wouldn't expect me "not to think about it" or to "be happy." Neither will happen for a very long time, so don't frustrate yourself.
11. I don't want to have a "pity party," but I do wish you would let me grieve. I must hurt before I can heal.
12. I wish you understood how my life has shattered. I know it is miserable for you to be around me when I'm feeling miserable. Please be as patient with me as I am with you.
13. When I say "I'm doing okay," I wish you could understand that I don't "feel" okay and that I struggle daily.
14. I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very normal. Depression, anger, hopelessness and overwhelming sadness are all to be expected. So please excuse me when I'm quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky.
15. Your advice to "take one day at a time" is excellent advice. However, a day is too much and too fast for me right now. I wish you could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour at a time.
16. Please excuse me if I seem rude, certainly not my intent. Sometimes the world around me goes too fast and I need to get off. When I walk away, I wish you would let me find a quiet place to spend time alone.
17. I wish you understood that grief changes people. When my child died, a big part of me died with him. I am not the same person I was before my child died, and I will never be that person again.
18. I wish very much that you could understand; understand my loss and my grief, my silence and my tears, my void and my pain. BUT I pray daily that you will never understand.
Note: His love endures forever. Psalm 107:1
Saint Raphael's Catholic Cemetery
Kowloon, Hong Kong
Plot: 44, 3rd Row, No. 75
Created by: BETA
Record added: Jan 10, 2013
Find A Grave Memorial# 103394856