|Birth: ||Mar. 6, 1912|
|Death: ||Nov. 23, 2007, England|
This memorial is dedicated to Mrs Louisa May Hoare.
Known also as Lou and affectionatly Louey.
Aunt Lou was born in Scotland in 1912. As a girl growing up she slept in the same bed as my nan and would go down to the farm to collect milk. Aunt Lou was a good lady. She always played by the rules. She used to be the "teller/tattler" as a child, if she saw my Nan doing something risky she would run to her mum or dad saying "Im telling!" Nan never got Aunt Lou involved in her schemes though!
Aunt Lou was very self consous, Which is why in most photos she had trouble smiling. Shame as she was a beautiful woman. She was the quiet sister compared to her outgoing siblings! As a teenager and young woman people often got Nan and Aunt Lou mixed up as they both had blue eyes and black hair and where thin. All the siblings had blue eyes.
Aunt Lou met the love of her life George Hoare who served oversea's in WW2, They where married in 1936 after many years of courting and where lucky enough after George spoke with Aunt Lou's pearents to save their money to start up a life together with more ease then most. They remained together until his death in 1972. He was a lovely man born 1909. He worked with the blind and ran a sucsessful corner shop with Aunt Lou in Birmingham.
For many years after marrying Aunt Lou remained in Portsmouth with her children. she lived only a few roads from all her family with George and was happy.
When war broke out, George left to keep this country free and safe he returned sporadicly and Aunt Lou remained with her two young children and family in the bombed city. Nan and Aunt Lou moved in together with their sons at the start of the war (Second children born towards the end of war). A big story was an old man was stealing their firewood and they followed the tracks he had made in the snow with a walking stick and gimp leg and chalenged him. The girl's dad was well known as a tyrant if you messed with his family and so they dident have any bother telling him to stop stealing their wood!
When Nan left to try and take her son away from the bombs and follow Grandad, Aunt Lou remained and lived in the bombed city with her family. Once war was over Aunt Lou and the family where thrilled when George came back from the wars but he always had "issues" from the war. He wanted a fresh start and had found the place to open their own corner shop. Aunt Lou took her two children and moved to Birmingham. The family was sad to see Aunt Lou go but carried on by wrighting to her, calling her and seeing her regulay for holidays each year or when she came here every 6 months or so.
Sadly Aunt Lou was picked on a bit for not being a brummy and had problems fitting in up there as did her children. The bussiness was a hit though and in the end she settled down but was never as happy there as she was here. Aunt Lou's daughter told me her mum was at her most easy and happy when she was with her sister's in their old family house (Aunt Dig's house) In Copnor. Her daughter remembered seeing them all laughing together in a way she never saw in Birmingham. Aunt Lou loved her brother Fred but he was always the dark horse, living away and hard to get in contact with. Nan and Aunt Lou tended to hear about him via Aunt Dig who was devoted to him.
Aunt Lou enjoyed comming down with George and then later on her own to Copnor for the summer and in the 50s Aunt Lou would go to Aunt Dig's cafe with Nan and their children and enjoy ice creams, swimming and fun in the sun!
Aunt Lou was very kind and when my grandpearents dident have enough money to send my dad to to the local fair as a child she said "whats this then?" "Whats over here?" Dad walked over and under a neatly placed stone was enough money in note form to go to the fair. Dad being young dident think anything of it but My Nan smiled at Aunt Lou when dad was jumping up and down with the note and must have known.
Nan Always said Aunt Lou was "A Very Good Person." Nan often joked when she got up to tricks Aunt Lou was the good one running off to tell on her! Nan loved Aunt Lou to bits and they would often be on the phone talking about family or events. When my pearents secretly married in 1990 and suprised Nan with the news she leapt up and said "Let me make you a cup of tea dears! or something stronger!" Nan rushed out and when dad opened the door nan was on the phone in the hallway saying "Louey you'l never guess what!"
Aunt Lou was also a great peackeeper, at times when Nan and Aunt Dig would have sister spats they would both ring Aunt Lou to complain about the other ha ha! Aunt Lou always managed to stay out of it and even better side with her pearents of agree with both ha ha. Nan liked to tell Aunt Lou gossip first because if she told Aunt Dig first then by the time she would phone Aunt Lou she already knew because Aunt Dig had got there first! HA HA!
In the 1970s Aunt Lou was hit by a car and the family flew up to see her, lucky she was ok but never sure what damage it caused. Aunt Lou's grandaughter was driving past while all the crowd gathered round and suddenly felt the urge to pull over and low and behold it was her nan who had been hit!
Aunt Lou loved her family with a passion and stuck by her children through thick and thin.
In later years Aunt Lou always seemed more frail then her sisters but like all of them still had amazing handwriting and attitude. Her hearing failed progressivly during the 90s and 2000s with both Nan and Aunt Dig remarking on it being very bad.
Dispite coaxing from all the family including her daughter for Aunt Lou to move down here she remained in Birmingham. Near her children and granchildren. She liked to tend George's family grave and loved her large home. Aunt Lou moved into a flat in the 1990s where she remained until 2005 when she moved in with her daughter.
Aunt Lou wasnt a talker more a listener but enjoyed listeing to her sisters and family.
Sadly Aunt Lou's health did seem to get more and more frail in the 1990s and by 2001 Aunt Dig was told Aunt Lou wouldent be comming down anymore as she was getting to old to handle the journey, she also couldent speak on the phone as she couldent hear and would spend the whole time saying "hello?" "is that you?" Aunt Dig had to hang up on her as it was to much. Aunt Lou was ringing us at Nan's house to as far back as 1998 and couldent understand why Nan wasnt awnsering. When you met her in person you would have to shout but it was easier, she used to laugh and say "youl have to speak up im deaf!" she was the only sibling to have those problems. Sadly hearing aids dident help Aunt Lou much.
Aunt Lou was devestated when her sister's died, I must admit we all expected Aunt Lou to go first. At Nan's funeral she wrote the words "Love you until the end of time." She clung to Aunt Dig and they wept together. We asked for their help with planning the service and wake to give them something to do. When Aunt Dig passed away Aunt Lou made the trip down and stayed in Aunt Dig's house she wore purple to the funeral one of Aunt Dig's most loved colours, she was heartbroken her youngest sister was gone before her. She was having noticeable problems seeing as well by that point but she did move around reasonably.
I always felt sorry for Aunt Dig as she lost contact with Fred her brother in 2000 and assumed he died, Nan passed away on the turning point of 2000 and then her sister couldent have contact with her so she must have felt like she lost them all.
Anyway After Aunt Dig's death, Aunt Lou sent her daughter across the country to try and find her brother, sadly to no avail. We lost contact abit after Aunt Dig died as there was no reason for them to come down anymore and it was impossible to phone her. We recived some odd phone calls though last one 2006 where Aunt Lou dialed us and couldent hear us or understand who we where. She once asked us why Dig wasnt awnsering her phone!
Aunt Lou spent her last years with her daughter and husband, she was restricted to a wheelchair but was aware of people when they came into the room. She needed to have someone with her 24/7 just incase she did herself a micheife. Aunt Lou outlived all her friends and finally old age took its course and Aunt Lou passed away at her daughter's residence on November 23rd 2007 at the grand age of 95 in her sleep.
I know it would have been a joyous reuonion with her beloved family.
Aunt Lou was a strong woman, Beautiful and full of love and courage. She loved birds and was outlived by her last budgie. Aunt Lou had owned many animals though, She was gentle and loving and would do no one any harm. In essence A good and kind lady.
Always loved and missed R.I.P Aunt Louisa/Lou. Our family attended the funeral on Nan and Aunt Dig's behalf and to bid Aunt Lou ferwell.
Now gone to lands unknown,
Where she should be placed on a throne,
A loving person with a heart so pure,
Is always missed more and more.
God Bless from us all xx
Survived by Son John, Daughter Jill, Three Grandchildren, One Great Grandson (Now Great Grandaughter to) and two in-laws and many other relatives.
Fredrick William Newstead (1888 - 1989)
Rosetta Alice Newstead (1887 - 1968)
Rosetta Eliza Mary Selwyn (1909 - 2000)*
Louisa May Hoare (1912 - 2007)
Dorothy Maud Newstead (1914 - 2002)**
Fredrick Albert J. Newstead (1914 - 2005)**
St. Margaret's Churchyard
Metropolitan Borough of Birmingham
West Midlands, England
Created by: Anonymous
Record added: Apr 17, 2012
Find A Grave Memorial# 88673867