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Tommye Ruth Phares & Alders Selig
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Birth: Nov. 8, 1948
Eddy County
New Mexico, USA
Death: Feb. 29, 2008
Pima County
Arizona, USA

NOTE: The Alders name came from Joseph Garcia Alders her step father from the time she was 3 years old when he married her Mother November 21, 1951 until 1964 she was known as Tommye Ruth Alders. He did not adopt his two step daughters, but was a wonderful Daddy to them.
Tommye Ruth was a loving and giving person, she spoke her mind, she was unpretentious, she was strong in her opinions, she gave allot of love, she was a wonderful cook, she loved when cousins, friends and family would go to her house and make loads of Tamales, flour tortillas, or roast 40 pound bags of Hatch's green chilie's in her back yard. She loved making food and taking it to her "kids" who were wonderful college kids who worked at two different coffee shops in Tucson. She spoiled them with baskets of goodies on holidays or whenever she felt like it.
Tommye loved her husband, son, and stepchildren, grandchildren and sisters, cousins & friends deeply. She is trully missed. by her older sister Lucile.
Her Obituary from the back of the Memorial Program;
Tommye Ruth Phares was born in Carlsbad, New Mexico, to Tom & Emma Reyes Phares. She married George Selig in 1973. They raised two sons: Michael Phares of Tucson and Roger Selig (Michelle) of Oklahoma. Tommye is survived by her husband and sons, by her stepchildren Deb Martin (Tom), Diane Meredith (Bill), Leslie Baer (Earl), by her sisters Lucile Cobb (Charles), Linda Bunyard, Maria Burns (Fred), Theresa Weir (Steve), Christina Alders, Sondra Tushek (Gordie) and step sisters and step brother: Kathey Kelley, Liz Dillon, Raymond Dillon as well as grandchildren, nieces, nephews, and many family and friends. She was preceded in death by parents and step-parents: Emma Gorey Richardson, Tom/Gladys Phares, Joe/Barbara Alders.
Tommye worked in Tenanat Services at the Arizona State Building in Tucson for twenty years, retiring in 2007. She always had a smile and a cheerful word and was often commended for her helpful and thorough work.
In 1974 she was one of the first women to work in the mines at the Duval Mine South of Tucson. It was a time when women were harassed in traditionally male jobs, but she cheerfully shoveled ore in her entry level position, happy to have employment.
Tommye's true vocation in life was caring for others, whether setting up beverages as a bartender, operating a cleaning business, nursing her grandmother; Clara Gorey, or more recently caring for Dorothy Cullen a good friend, and bringing goody baskets to the young adults at Coffee Exchange. She loved her mochas and her "kids".
Tommye and George helped many friends and family. Tommye loved everyone and showed it in many ways. Through this past four years with cancer she never stopped giving or going and doing for others. She is a beautiful butterfly. She is missed. 
Family links: 
  Tom Johnson Phares (1925 - 1997)
  Emma Clara Gorey Richardson (1930 - 1997)
  Tommye Ruth Phares & Alders Selig (1948 - 2008)
  Theresa Ann Alders Wier (1956 - 2012)**
*Calculated relationship
Cremated, Ashes scattered.
Specifically: Her ashes scattered by family and friends over Gates Pass
Created by: Lucile Phares Cobb
Record added: Oct 26, 2011
Find A Grave Memorial# 79309229
Tommye Ruth <i>Phares & Alders</i> Selig
Added by: Lucile Phares Cobb
Tommye Ruth <i>Phares & Alders</i> Selig
Added by: Lucile Phares Cobb
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Oh how you are missed. You are loved and in my heart forever and never forgotten my sister and friend.
- Your Older Sister
 Added: Oct. 26, 2011

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