|Birth: ||May 30, 1953|
|Death: ||Aug. 22, 2010|
As a young woman of 17, Diane Robinson was told in her LDS patriarchal blessing that, "Thou wilt have a lovely home where the Spirit of the Lord will abide. People crossing thy threshold will feel this spirit and will want to linger." She would think of this blessing often and recognize those instances when family, friends, and neighbors would "linger" on the doorstep of her home. Perhaps it was the smell of fresh baked bread, the family pictures so lovingly placed on the walls, or the wonderful laughter that caused these people to want to stay. That promise of the patriarch extended far beyond the threshold of her home; Diane's spirit drew people to the threshold of her life and those people felt her spirit and desired to stay in her presence.
The first to cross over Diane's threshold were her father and mother, Don and Helen Robinson. They felt a special bond to their very first child and raised her with a spirit of love, a passion for music, and an expectation of high scholarship. At one point in her childhood Diane's love of learning and constant book-reading caused her mother to worry about her social wellbeing. It was an unnecessary fear because people naturally and joyfully gathered at the threshold of her life. Each time her parents brought home a new baby she said that her heart would burst with feelings of love and gratitude for the chance to watch and help her mother raise each of these precious souls. As the oldest of her family, Diane always felt strong feelings of responsibility for her younger brothers and sisters. Even as these siblings grew up and moved away she still strived to maintain communication with them, taking interest in their lives and the lives of their families. These eternal ties to her childhood home became a source of security and comfort when she was ready to weave new ties, bringing more of her love to those that crossed her path.
That new beginning came with the marriage to her husband, Jeffrey Allen Haines. He was a dreamer who was considering a career as a professional actor, much to the dismay of Diane's mother. Still, Diane sensed that Jeff had a potential for greatness, and more importantly was a man who honored his Priesthood. She could not see herself living life without him, so in faith and after receiving a spiritual confirmation, she married him for time and all eternity in the Provo Utah LDS Temple on 19 April 1975. Because he crossed her threshold he became greatónot as an actor, but as a commissioned officer in the United States Army. Jeff and Diane completed each other. For over 35 years they faced challenges together, laughed together, cried together, and raised their children together in love. Diane referred to Jeff as the love of her life, her "Man in Uniform," and her helpmeet. Side by side, they set out to create a home to bring more souls over the threshold.
Diane never liked the title of "Housewife." To her it sounded like someone who simply cooked and cleaned, achieving nothing more than a spotless house and decent rations for those inside. She much preferred the occupation of "Homemaker." She was the maker of a HOME for her family to consider as a refuge from the world. As any homemaker knows, the duty is not one to be taken lightly. She learned lessons as each child came into her life. Micah (33) admired her ability to laugh, especially when it came to recalling stories from family experiences. Asher (32) was amazed at her ability to simultaneously cook in the kitchen, help someone with their homework, and yell "F sharp! Check the key signature!" as he practiced piano in the other room. Rachel (30) remembered her thoughtfulness when Mom anonymously had a rose delivered to her in one of her high school classes with a card that said, "From your secret admirer." Emily (29) knew she must be Mom's favorite child, only to discover that all of her siblings felt that they were Mom's favorite child as well. Kirsten (27) knew firsthand of Mom's power to become the "Mother Bear" when she felt her children had been wronged in any way. Cameron (25) recalled the sharp tap of her fingers on top of his head to get his attention in church or if he was misbehaving. Nathan (22) had a desire to linger with Mom when after hearing her frustrated cry of "I'm going into ORBIT!" replied with, "Can I come with you?" Aaron (20) could always count on seeing Mom in the audience of any of his performances. When Talmage (19) began his first difficult days in kindergarten he told her through his tears, "I just want to stay home with you and play with my (army) guys!" Joshua (15) could always count on Mom to be there when he came home from school with the smell of fresh baked bread in the air. Being there for her children was paramount in Diane's life. She knew that if she would be "at the crossroads" of their lives she could have the greatest influence on them. Whether it be welcoming her son home from school or flying to help after a new grandchild's birth, she would do all she could to make her spirit present.
One by one her children grew and began to bring more people into the walls of her home. Diane welcomed her children's spouses into her life, adopting them as if they were her own. Grandchildren soon arrived in her home. She took on the name of GranDi and did her very best to show her love to them. She often said that her "cup runneth over" with gratitude whenever she reflected on the privilege and blessing of raising her family. There was one child that was not permitted to linger on earth with her. Diane's tenth child, Angela Delight Haines, was stillborn on February 14, 1993. This was a devastating experience for Diane to endure. She called Angela her "tithing child" and never stopped longing for and loving her little daughter. Each Valentine's Day she took her family to Angela's gravesite to sing and contemplate the great plan of Heavenly Father.
Diane's influence went far beyond her family. She gave her spirit to those around her in the community and in her church. Despite the constant moving required of the military, she was able to reach out and create ties with people from all over the country and world. She accepted every church calling extended to her and would do all she could to go the extra mile in her assignment. Diane was involved with community endeavors such as organizing benefit concerts for worthy causes and welcoming in neighbors for happy gatherings. Never was there a time when the Haines family did not know who their neighbors and friends were. In 2005, when Diane was diagnosed with cancer she admitted to feeling a range of emotions: disbelief, anger, fear, sorrow, and finally acceptance and hope for the future. Her goals did not change with the news. She still had the desire to be a loyal wife, mother, grandmother, and friend to all who came in contact with her. Despite pain and fatigue, she remained stationed at her children's crossroads, never wavering from her eternal calling. Eventually the roles of nurturing and caretaking were reversed. Her sons and daughters held and comforted their beloved mother. Her husband and helpmeet lifted and sustained her through the pain and heartache. Her neighbors and friends came, motivated by the Christ-like need to serve the woman who touched their lives so deeply. In the end, the limits of Diane's body could not contain her spirit. On Sunday, August 22, 2010, Diane Robinson Haines crossed the threshold back into her Heavenly Father's presence.
Now Diane has a new home, a home where she can hold her daughter Angela again. But even with her physical presence gone, the promise given in her blessing at the age of 17 still remains. Those that have crossed Diane's threshold can still linger and feel the Spirit of the Lord. As Diane approached the veil of heaven, she stayed true to her testimony of her Savior's reality. Now she waits on the other side, stationed at the crossroads as she always has been, and will be for eternity.
Angela Delight Haines (1993 - 1993)*
East Lawn Memorial Hills Cemetery
Created by: tribe hunter
Record added: Aug 25, 2010
Find A Grave Memorial# 57698622
Diane...you are remembered|
Added: Aug. 25, 2010