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Melba Clarice Pickens Abshure
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Birth: Jun. 27, 1924
Elmore City
Garvin County
Oklahoma, USA
Death: Mar. 20, 2009
Cleveland County
Oklahoma, USA

Funeral services for Melba Clarice Abshure will be held Tuesday, March 24, 2009 at 2 p.m. at the Church of Christ in Elmore City, Okla. Pastor Joe Terrell will be officiating. Burial will follow at the Elmore City Cemetery under the direction of Wooster Funeral Home.

Melba Abshure of Norman, Okla., was born June 27, 1924 in Elmore City. She was the oldest of seven children to Ida and Earl Pickens.

Melba passed away Friday, March 20 in Norman, Oklahoma at the age of 84.

Melba grew up around the Elmore City area. She attended Elmore City Schools and was on the girl's high school basketball team.

She married Thomas Lester Abshure on August 28, 1941. Together they eventually made their retirement home in Elmore City.

Melba enjoyed meeting people and loved making new friends. She has many friends all over the country including Bismarck, North Dakota and Lincoln, Nebraska where she and her husband lived during his career in civil service.

Melba had a great sense of humor and a keen wit. She could always make her children laugh. She was an excellent and loving homemaker, mother and wife. Some of her many hobbies included canning and garage sale shopping.

She was the ultimate "Avon Lady' and was loved by all her customers. Melba was also an excellent seamstress and loved sewing clothes and gifts for her children and grandchildren. She also enjoyed ceramics and made many beautiful gifts for friends and family.

Melba was a wonderful cook and especially loved to bake cakes and pies. One memorable day she baked 30 apple pies. She shared her talent of baking by taking her best desserts to many shut-ins.

Melba is preceded in death by her husband, Thomas L. Abshure; her parents; one sister, Mavis Ward; and two brothers, G.W. Pickens and Ray Pickens.

Survivors include four daughters and a son: daughter Tommye Kaye and husband Bruce Winters of Blanchard, Okla., daughter Donna and husband Tom Horner of Boise, Idaho, daughter Dianne Moxness of Sparks, Nevada, son Grant Abshure and wife Angie of Oklahoma City, and daughter Amy and husband Eddie Stewart of Elmore City; 10 grandchildren and 9 great-grandchildren; sister Jean Starling of Troutdale, Ore.; sister Glenda Moore of Vail, Ariz.; and brother Calvin Pickens of Myrtle Creek, Ore.

Melba will be greatly missed by all who were touched by her generous and loving life.


Interesting find at when Aunt Melba was 5 yrs old. She and her mother and two siblings were living with her Aunt Alice Martin and her family, Elmore City, OK, in the 1930 federal census:

Name: Melba Pickins
[Melba Pickens]
Birth Year: abt 1925
Gender: Female
Race: White
Birthplace: Oklahoma
Marital Status: Single
Relation to Head of House: Niece
Home in 1930: Elmore City, Garvin, Oklahoma
Map of Home: View Map
House Number in Cities or Towns: 4
Dwelling Number: 40
Family Number: 44
Attended School: No
Able to Read and Write: No
Father's Birthplace: Oklahoma
Mother's Birthplace: Oklahoma
Able to Speak English: Yes
Neighbors: View others on page
Household Members:
Name Age
Hary Martin 31
Alice Martin 58
A B Martin 24
Obid Martin 22
Oalin Martin 20
Della Martin 18
Ida Pickins 26
Melba Pickins 5
Martas Pickins 4
Wandagine Pickins 1
[1 11/12]
Lester Martin 33
Source Citation

Year: 1930; Census Place: Elmore City, Garvin, Oklahoma; Roll: 1903; Page: 3A; Enumeration District: 0007; Image: 586.0; FHL microfilm: 2341637


The 1940 United States Federal Census

Name: Milba Pickens
Age: 15
Estimated birth year: abt 1925
Gender: Female
Race: White
Birthplace: Oklahoma
Marital Status: Single
Relation to Head of House: Daughter (Child)
Home in 1940: Elmore, Garvin, Oklahoma
Map of Home in 1940: View Map
Inferred Residence in 1935: Rural, Garvin, Oklahoma
Residence in 1935: Rural, Garvin, Oklahoma
Resident on farm in 1935: No
Sheet Number: 7B
Attended School or College: Yes
Highest Grade Completed: High School, 1st year
Neighbors: View others on page
Household Members:
Name Age
Earl A Pickens 36
Ida Pickens 36
Milba Pickens 15
Mavin Pickens 14
Jean Pickens 12
Ray Pickens 7
G W Pickens 4
Source Citation

Year: 1940; Census Place: Elmore, Garvin, Oklahoma; Roll: T627_3294; Page: 7B; Enumeration District: 25-8


The sweet dog noted on her lap in the first photo of Aunt Melba was a loyal companion named 'Rose'. She was also loved deeply.

Family links: 
  Earl Abner Pickens (1903 - 1972)
  Ida Alverta Martin Pickens (1903 - 1943)
  Thomas L Abshure (1920 - 2004)*
  Wanda Jean Pickens Starling (____ - 2015)*
  Melba Clarice Pickens Abshure (1924 - 2009)
  Mavis Murel Pickens Ward (1926 - 1992)*
  Eddy Ray Pickens (1932 - 2005)*
  Grant Walter Pickens (1936 - 1990)*
  Calvin L. Pickens (1942 - 2014)*
*Calculated relationship
Elmore City Cemetery
Elmore City
Garvin County
Oklahoma, USA
Maintained by: Helen
Originally Created by: Sharon Rhoades
Record added: Mar 24, 2009
Find A Grave Memorial# 35097983
Melba Clarice <i>Pickens</i> Abshure
Added by: Helen
Melba Clarice <i>Pickens</i> Abshure
Added by: Helen
Melba Clarice <i>Pickens</i> Abshure
Added by: Robert Lee Layton Jr. [Okie Bob]
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