|Birth: ||Nov. 21, 1918|
|Death: ||Mar. 28, 2013|
BURGE, Margaret Eaton Kane, age 94, was born November 21, 1918 in Grand Rapids to Forrest and Josephine Kane and was raised in Pontiac Michigan. She was named after her maternal grandmother Margaret Eaton who was born in Northern Ireland. Margaret's nickname "Mugs" followed her until her death.
Mom had two younger brothers. In the early 1920s there was a scarlet fever epidemic and her baby brother Dickey died and her other brother Bob was left with some brain damage. Bob died in 1995.
The Kane family belonged to Pine Lake Country Club where Mugs swam, played tennis and had lots of fun. From the pictures I've seen it looks like she spent a lot of time there. This was a time when people would dress up for dinner so when they went to the club for dinner it was a dress up affair. Even at home when they were called to dinner they would stand behind their chair until everyone was ready to be seated.
Mom was very talented. In her Junior High School Recital she performed in a group tap dance, a group ballet dance, a solo toe dance and a solo violin piece. I would often catch her dancing around the kitchen and sometimes she would even have me dance with her. She played the piano and organ by ear. I loved to hear her play.
Mom went to Michigan State College (now University) where she was an active member of Alpha Xi Delta sorority. She continued her involvement with her sorority until just a few years ago.
Mom and dad met at Michigan State on a blind date. They both graduated in 1940, dad in electrical engineering and mom in journalism. Mom once told me she had decided she wanted to marry an engineer… and she did. On May 2, 1942, they were married in a ceremony in mom's family home. The day after they got married, my dad received his draft notice. Instead of being drafted my dad enlisted in the U.S. Army so for many months after they were married they were separated because of the war. In 1943, my sister Barbara was born when my dad was overseas. I was born 6 years later.
Mom was always our room-mother and our Brownie and Girl Scout leader. She always volunteered to accompany our classes on field trips and any other activities where parent involvement was needed. Her children always came first. In 9th grade I had a boyfriend who played hockey early on Saturday morning and she cheerfully would get up and drive me to the skating rink to watch him play.
Although mom was raised as a Christian Scientist she was baptized Dec. 20, 1959 and became a member of The First Presbyterian Church of Birmingham. She served as a Deacon of the church from 1986 to 1990. She was always very active in the church especially "Christmas Hand in Hand".
In the late 1960s she started volunteering at Beaumont Hospital in the chaplain's office. She continued her volunteering for many years and one summer, when I was in college, she even had me volunteer in the flower shop. When mom went into hospice several weeks ago I met with her hospice workers and I found out that her hospice chaplain had worked with her when mom was volunteering and she knew my mom quite well.
Starting about 1953 our family spent summers in Traverse City with the Bud and Elsie Harrison family. My mom and dad loved to fish, golf, and play cards. Sometimes they played poker or Michigan Rummy but their favorite was bridge. I can remember mom and dad, Bud and Elsie Harrison and Uncle Harv and Aunt Hazel sitting around the kitchen table playing poker for pennies.
In 1964 my parents bought our cottage on Long Lake in Traverse City. When they retired they spent their summers at the cottage. Mom and dad continued spending summers in Traverse City until 2009 and they stayed in their own home until just before Christmas of that year. They both spent time in the hospital and eventually were moved into Evergreen Health and Living Center. My dad died on March 1, 2010 and my mother continued to live at Evergreen Health and Living Center until she passed away on March 28, 2013.
Thank you to the staff at Evergreen for the great care my mom received while there. I often though about moving her to Grand Rapids but I decided she was better staying at Evergreen where she knew the staff and received wonderful care. Thank you to her hospice workers who visited her when I couldn't and kept me up to date with her status.
A special thanks to Carol Meyer, mom and dad's Senior helper, who after helping in their home followed them to Evergreen and continued, in a volunteer capacity, to help them. Carol would be sure my mom had the clothes she needed, helped her fill out her weekly meal card, would often take mom to church on Sunday, and was like another daughter to mom. Carol was with my mom the day before she died.
Also, a special thanks to Sally Harrison Fraser, a close friend of the family, who lives close to Evergreen and works across the street at Groves High School. Sally often would visit mom and then hold the phone to her ear so I could talk to her because she was too weak to hold the phone herself. When I had to sell the family home, I went and took out as much as I could and then Sally went and finished the big job of getting everything out of the home and getting it cleaned so it could be sold.
I called Sally on the morning my mom died and told her mom was nonresponsive. Sally hurried over to Evergeen and sat with mom, holding her hand, talking to her, and letting her know how much she was loved. Although I came as soon as I could I got there about 15 minutes too late. Sally was with mom when she took her last breath and peacefully left this earth and began her life in heaven.
Sally and Carol made my job of taking care of mom and dad so much easier. Thank you both.
Rest in peace mom.
Nancy Burge Zylstra, youngest daughter of Fred and Margaret Burge.
Margaret was the beloved wife of the late Frederick Jr., dear mother of Barbara Green and Nancy Zylstra (Andrew), grandmother of Kristin Brenner (Jim), Lee Zylstra and Brian Zylstra (Toya) also seven great-grandchildren.
Her family will receive friends at A.J. Desmond & Sons (Vasu, Rodgers & Connell Chapel), 32515 Woodward (btwn 13-14 Mile), Royal Oak, Tuesday 10:00am until funeral service 11:00am.
Memorial tributes to First Presbyterian Church, 1669 W. Maple Rd., Birmingham, MI 48009.
White Chapel Memorial Park Cemetery
Troy (Oakland County)
Created by: Molly'sDad
Record added: Apr 02, 2013
Find A Grave Memorial# 107671784
Now rest in peace and may God bless.|
Added: Apr. 2, 2013