|Birth: ||May 23, 1942|
|Death: ||Feb. 21, 2008|
San Bernardino County
Carol Abercrombie was a modest woman, quiet and observant in her ways. She was trustworthy and traditional in her approach to her life and in her relationships. She was tough-minded with the kind of "stick to it" attitude that earned the respect of all who knew her. She was also a woman who was meticulous, carefully disciplined, and orderly in virtually everything she undertook. Realistic about life, she was always at the ready, prepared to take on responsibility.
Her parents were Clifford and Veva Ipock. Carol was born in Mountain Grove, Missouri; lived in Grand Junction, Colorado; Manteca, California; and Willows, California. She was brought up to be self-confident, self reliant and dependable. These were traits that would serve her well throughout her life.
Growing up in the Abercrombie household was a bit different than most homes. There were good times to be had, but just as often there was a fair share of challenges as well. However, Carol was able to work through the usual family problems when they appeared, and she was the one person in the family who seemed able to keep the stress at bay. Carol was raised with ten siblings. She had four brothers, Clifford, Bobby, David and Benny and six sisters, Jean, Patsy, Doralea, Mary, Judi and Renee. Carol was constantly involved in activities with her brothers and sisters. Carol and her siblings may have had the typical rivalries while growing up but Carol was always consistently loyal to her family.
As a young child, Carol was never someone who needed to be the center of attention. She wasn't pushy and never forced her way into games or other activities. Carol developed a variety of interests though, and the things she enjoyed doing she did well. She was always curious about the world around her and was often eager to explore it. Carol took part in softball, volleyball and tetherball. However, what Carol enjoyed most was simply playing and spending time with her many friends.
While her teachers and even her friends generally thought of Carol as being a serious person, she managed to have a pretty good time in high school as she made that critical transition from adolescence to adulthood. She graduated from Willows High School in 1960. She enjoyed some courses more than others, having favorite classes and teachers. Her favorite class in high school was California History.
Carol was a very logical person who enjoyed learning about factual information. Using her exceptional memory, she was able to learn much through observation. Carol always seemed to have a command of the facts and was able to make it seem as though she could easily master any problem that might be presented to her.
Always considered to be a solid friend, Carol was fortunate to have numerous acquaintances and several very close friends during her life. Since she disliked making generalizations about people and preferred to draw her own conclusions based on direct observation,
Carol was able to see beneath the surface of relationships and became a true friend to those who knew her. She was committed to her friends and valued the trust she placed in them. It was not uncommon for Carol to go beyond the call of duty for others, and friends frequently sought her out for advice because she had a knack for coming up with practical solutions to any type of dilemma. Later in life, she became friends with Sandra Rocha, Carol and Jim Weixal, Doug and Ceile Neuman, Rosie and Orly Casas, Neil Fehn, Lori Flores and many others if you want to come by the house to view her phone book.
On November 6, 1966 Carol exchanged wedding vows with Donald Abercrombie at the County Courthouse in Carson City, Nevada. Compassionate and devoted to Don, Carol held endearing, traditional values about marriage and family life. She took the responsibility of marriage to heart, giving it her total commitment. She was a source of strength to Don and using her gifts at nurturing one-on-one relationships, she worked hard to make her new family happy.
Carol brought the same traditional values in her marriage to bear on how she raised her children. She was a good parent to them, always firm yet fair in her dealings. She would always listen carefully and think things through before she acted, even when it was an adverse situation.
Carol was also a walking schedule, always seeming to know what everyone in the family needed to do, where they needed to be and when they needed to be there. Carol was blessed with seven children, one daughter Tina and her husband Bobby, and six sons, Greg and his wife Bette, Brian, Rick and his wife Rene, Tommy and his wife Adrianee, Michael and Glenn; 15 Grandchildren: Amanda, Brittney, Aubrey, Kristin, Joseph, Sabrina, Hunter, Cassie, Tyler, Maria, Cameron, Hallie, Michael, Lillie, Aaron; and Two Great Grandchildren, Christopher and Kyler.
Carol greatly enjoyed what she did for a living. She was a hard worker who expected the same in return from her co-workers. She was skilled at working effectively in small groups and in one-on-one situations as well as handling solo assignments efficiently. Carol enjoyed dealing with concrete ideas and could penetrate any amount of fuzzy information to reach the essential facts. Always able to attend to the task at hand, Carol was excellent at meeting deadlines. She was an efficient worker, one who paid careful attention to detail, allowing sufficient time to complete one task before moving on to the next. Her primary occupation was as a Mortuary Office Manager. She was employed for over 40 years owning Abercrombie and Walters Mortuary in Fullerton, later working for Pierce Brothers Crestlawn Mortuary in Riverside, Aaron Cremation and Burial in Highland and Richardson-Peterson Mortuary in Ontario. Carol worked hard to be a team player, doing what was necessary in order to get the job done.
Carol liked to experience things first-hand as well as learn about them. This trait carried over into her hobbies, where she was very methodical in how she organized her activities and categorized things. Since she enjoyed her private time, Carol always tried to allocate a specific time for working on her hobbies. Her favorite pursuits were doll collecting, playing on her computer, collecting recipes from the Food Network, visiting Las Vegas and Laughlin and local Indian Casinos, gardening, and card games with friends and family. She also enjoyed watching Dancing With The Stars, Two and A Half Men, reading, crocheting, and she loved to bake. Carol was content to enjoy her hobbies alone but was also willing to share her interests with others.
Carol found pleasure in sports. Being a person who was comfortable making win/lose decisions throughout life, she could appreciate that athletes made those types of decisions in sports. She applauded those who won, and she enjoyed the statistical data and sports facts and could find herself wrapped up in those details. In high school, Carol played softball and volleyball. She would watch her favorite sporting events whenever she got the opportunity. Tops on her list were the Lakers when they were winning despite her dislike for Kobe.
Many organizations were grateful to have Carol as a member, since she always brought with her a "stick to it" attitude and a high degree of common sense. Using straightforward methods to successfully complete the job, Carol was a great planner who was incredibly well organized. It seemed that she was able to schedule any event or activity with ease. She always seemed to know exactly what needed to be done. Throughout her later years, Carol was an active member of the Golden Hill Little League Woman's Auxiliary.
As a woman who always showed great commitment to the things she believed in, it's a wonder that Carol was so active in her community. Being practical and mentally disciplined, Carol preferred to base her decisions on first-hand experiences. Carol was never afraid to roll up her sleeves and dig right in. Politically, Carol was passionate about politics and was always ready to share her views with you whether you wanted to hear it or not.
Carol enjoyed traveling and taking vacations. Some of favorite vacations included Las Vegas, Laughlin, Montana, Wyoming, Missouri and especially the family vacations taken in the motor home and summers in Big Bear.
Carol was a lover of animals and cherished her pets. One of Carol's favorite pets was Henry, a cockatiel bird. They were best friends for 16 years. Her dogs, Lady, Wilbur, Pixie, Yippers, Rusty, Stormy and Trouble rounded out her family.
Carol's retirement finally arrived in 2001. In retirement, she found new pleasure in playing on the computer, finding and printing numerous recipes from the Food Network that she would never be able to make, balancing the checkbook daily and taking care of her husband and helping to raise their granddaughter Maria. Even in retirement, Carol continued to stay in touch with her old friends while making plenty of new ones.
Carol Abercrombie passed away on February 21, 2008 at her home in San Bernardino, California. Carol fought Congestive Heart Failure for over five years and just a couple days before her death caught the flu and just was not able to fight it off. She is survived by her husband of 41 years Don, her daughter Tina and her husband Bobby, six sons, Greg and his wife Bette, Rick and his wife Rene, Brian, Tommy and his wife Adrian, Michael and Glenn; her Mother Veva Ipock, brothers Clifford, Benny and Bobby, six sisters Jean, Patsy, Doralea, Judi, Mary and Renee, fifteen grandchildren and two great grandchildren and a host of extended family and friends.
Friends called from 4:00PM to 9:00PM on Thursday, February 28, 2008 at Pierce Bros. Crestlawn Mortuary. A Celebration of Her Life was on Friday, February 29, 2008 at 11:00AM at Pierce Bros. Crestlawn Mortuary. Interment followed at Pierce Bros. Crestlawn Memorial Park.
Commitment is a key word that can be used to describe the life of Carol. She was committed to living the life of a good woman who was both practical and trustworthy. She was committed to the traditional values that she upheld her entire life. She was a committed and trusted friend. She committed herself to being a hard worker who expected the same effort in return from those around her. Most of all, she was committed to and greatly loved her family.
Pierce Brothers Crestlawn Memorial Park & Mortuary
Created by: Ms. Clyde
Record added: Jun 15, 2010
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