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Ryan William "SDbeachlife" Carter
Birth: Sep. 10, 1999
La Mesa
San Diego County
California, USA
Death: Jan. 16, 2012
San Diego
San Diego County
California, USA

San Diego Union Tribune
Jan. 17, 2012

EL CAJON-Sobbing at times, the mother of a 12-year-old Ryan who was stabbed to death mourned the loss of her son but said the 10-year-old friend accused of killing him was "not some moster."

"please don't make it out that he was this terrible human being." Lisa Carter said Tuesday about the 10-year-old in custody in connection with her son Ryan's death.

Carter said the younger boy was known for having anger issues and that his mother has been helping his with medical issues stemming from his birth. His medication had just been changed recently. Neighbors decribed the mother of the 10-year-old, as being "The nicest woman you'd ever meet. She would calm the boy by telling him everything will be ok. No one else was able to do that.

Ryan, a sixth-grader at Foothills Christian Elementary in Lakeside, was in the driveway of the 10-year-old's home in the El Cajon area about 1:30 p.m. Monday when he was stabbed in the chest with a kitchen knife.

Carter and her husband, Glen described their hazel-eyed boy as a straight-A student who loved talking about politics, learning the guitar and taking care of his pet tortoise, Tut.

"He was our only child," said Lisa Carter, a stay-at-home mom. "I tried for 10 years to conceive him."

The family has lived in the Knoll's mobile home park on Royal Road, next to the scene of the incident, since Ryan was an infant. The couple said they sold their La Mesa house when he was born so they could have enough money to send him to private school and to start a college fund.

"I wanted him to have the best of everything," his mother said. "I wanted him to be the best that he could be."

Ryan's parents said he scored exceptionally high in his most recent standardized tests at school and liked to build rockets and other objects. They said he was interested in current affairs and had studied up on politics and religion in India.

He kept a bunk bed in his bedroom, in case his friends stayed over. A Skateboard with Tony Hawk's name emblazoned on it was propped Tuesday against a nearby wall. At the foot of his bed is a terrarium with a bright heat lamp to keep Tut warm.

Lisa Carter said her boy, who used "SDbeachlife" as his email name, was proud of his roots. He was the descendant of George Lyons, one of San Diego County's first sheriffs, and Pio Pico, the last Mexican governor of California.

Pastor Kevin Miller, an administrator at the church affiliated with Ryan's Lakeside school, said his classmates were struggling to understand his death.

"When people hear about it, they're just sobbing," Miller said. "I have a classroom of (students) who are crying right now."

Because the 10-year-old accused in Ryan's death is a juvenile, authorities will not release his name, and U-T San Diego is not publishing it.

Sheriff's deputies took him into custody Monday and later booked him into Juvenile Hall.

After weighing all the options, authorities decided that the close supervision provided in Juvenile Hall was the best way to guarantee the boy's safety, sheriff's homicide Lt. Larry Nesbit said Tuesday.

It is not known what charges, if any, might be filed in the case. He is too young under state law to be tried as an adult.

A spokesman with the District Attorney's Office said Tuesday that prosecutors had not yet received the case from sheriff's investigators.

The Carters and others in the neighborhood said they had known the boy was quick to anger, but that his friends had learned to step back when his temper began to spiral out of control.

Several residents said the boy's mother, a special education teacher at a San Diego public high school, has been working with doctors to address a "chemical imbalance" in the child, whom she adopted. The boy's medical issues go back to his birth.

Vales and others said the 10-year-old, Ryan and other boys in the neighborhood often played together bouncing on trampolines or pretending to be pirates.

"They were normal, good kids, just having fun," said longtime resident Teddy. "I would have my grandkids play with them."

Grief counselors were on hand Tuesday morning at the East County schools attended by both boys.

Parents at W.D. Hall Elementary School, which the 10-year-old attended, expressed shock at how young the stabbing suspect is.

"That's the hardest thing to fathom," said McMahon. "I've got a 10-year-old myself.

Parent Marquez said, "It's shocking. A 10-year-old? What's society coming to?"

Colleen Newman, principal at the school near El Cajon, said a crisis team was at the campus to help students and staff members cope with the gravity of the incident.

The 10-year-old had been enrolled in boxing classes at Undisputed, a gym in El Cajon, as a way to channel his energy into something positive, said an employee, who declined to give his name.

"He was a good kid," the employee said. "We did our best to discipline him. We gave him that tough love and weren't babying his needs. We tried to show him how to control his emotions"

Ulimately, the program didn't work out for the boy, and he stopped coming a few months ago, the employee said.

Earlier reports said that the suspect liked to play football and practice Mauy Thai boxing and Jujitsu. He was muscular and a little short for his age.

The 10-year-old boy who allegedly fatally stabbed his best friend, Ryan in the chest about 1:15 p.m. on Monday. Which took place in the driveway of the 10-year-olds home on the 12500 block of Royal Road in the Winter Gardens area of El Cajon.

Medics took Ryan to Rady Children's Hospital in San Diego, where he was pronounced dead about 2:30 p.m., Sheriffs Lt. Larry Nesbit said.

Lisa, the mother of 12-year-old Ryan, said her son had just slept at the boy's home for two night before he was attacked on Monday. It was the end of the holiday Weekend for Martin Luther King's birthday.

Ryan's father Glen said the 10-year-old detained after the stabbing was his son's best friend. He told us it was his understanding that Ryan was breaking up a fight when the stabbing occurred. Glen told the NBC San Diego News, that "There's a gaint hole where my heart's supposed to be".

Candles, flowers and a tebby bear sat outside the home of 12-year-old Ryan Carter.

Records show that Ryan also seems to be the same child that was cast in the role of the "park victim" in a short called Tales of a 5th Grade Zombie Slayer (2010) on that was filmed in Santee. His resume shows he also did some modeling.

California requires that children be at least 14 to be charged as adult, said Shaun Martin, a University of San Diego law professor. State University of San Diego law professor. State law allows children to be detained until they turn 25, which would amount to a maximum sentence of 15 years for the boy if charged as a juvenile.

JANUARY 25, 2012

CARTER, RYAN WILLIAM Sept. 10, 1999 to Jan. 16, 2012 Ryan was born in San Diego to Glen and Lisa Carter. He was tragically called to his Maker, protection one of his playmates, on Monday the 16th of January. He was a loving son to his father and mother, was a straight A student at Christ Lutheran and Foothills Christian schools and went to church at Foothills Church on Bradley Avenue in El Cajon. Interests included sports of all kinds (football, soccer, surfing, ect.) video games, collecting baseball cards, coins, stamps, playing the guitar. Some of Ryan's ancestors were founding fathers of the San Diego area, one of which was George Lyons, the 4th sheriff of San Diego county. Ryan is survived by his parents, Glen and Lisa Carter, his sister Jamie Goodgame, grandfather Bill Hathaway, garndparents Birney Carter and Leah Gergal, two uncles of the Hathaway family and seven uncles and one aunt of the Carter side. Viewing at El Cajon Mortuary, 684 South Mollison for the family 3 to 4 p.m., friends 4 to 7 p.m. on Thursday January 26, 2012. Services will be held at Foothills Church, 365 West Bradley Ave., El Cajon at 10 a.m. on Friday, January 27, 2012. A "Celebration of Life" will take place at the Santee/Lakeside Elks Lodge, 11633 Woodside Ave., Lakeside at 12:30 following the service.

JANUARY 27, 2012


Some 400 people gathered in an El Cajon church Friday to mark the life and mourn the death of 12-year-old boy, who was stabbed to death with a kitchen knife last week in a neighbor's driveway north of town.

Niki Atherton, Ryan's teacher at Foothills Christian Elementary in Lakeside, remembered him as a bright and diligent sixth-grader.

And he was godly, too, she said. She said when her class held a daily devotional, Ryan would pipe up and talk about how heaven sounded like a wonderful place to be. "Now he's truly there," Atherton said.

His fifth-grade teacher, Crissi Lee, said the boy had a cool confidence. She liked how he would gently tease her at times. She was also struck by Ryan's eagerness to help others, especially those less fortunate than him.

"He had a true heart for people, especially the lost," she told the church crowd.

Hoffman, called Ryan a hero because of his affinity for helping others.

A private interment followed Friday's more than hourlong memorial service. Ryan's body was place at Holy Cross Cemetery.

~~~~~~~~~ UP DATES ~~~~~~~~

The 10-year-boy appeared in Juvenile court today, (Thursday Jan. 19, 2012) at 8:00 a.m. And they charged him with Felony Assault and Murder. He was orderded to stay in Juvenile Hall and will appear back in court on Feb. 23, 2012. At that time his lawyers are expected to discuss the boy's competency, specifically whether he can undrstand the proceedings and assist in his own defense. He is expected to undergo a psychological evaluation before the hearing.

The judge noted that it might be difficult to explain factors involving a defendant's legal right to a speedy trial to a 10-year-old, but asked the defense lawyer if she was able to make him understand.

He remains custody in Juvenile Hall.

Holy Cross Cemetery
San Diego
San Diego County
California, USA
Plot: St. Peter, Garden 819, Section 2, Lot 144A, Space 7.
Created by: Athena
Record added: Jan 18, 2012
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Ryan William SDbeachlife Carter
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How I would love to have you for a baby brother who I could love, protect and take care of like my very own. Rest in peace, beautiful beloved child. You are forever safe in God's loving arms.
- Pinoy Pride
 Added: Oct. 29, 2014
For my cousin in heaven.
- Amy
 Added: Oct. 9, 2014
you are a hero. rip dear sweet ryan
- for those that remain
 Added: Sep. 19, 2013
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