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Thea Spyer
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Birth: Oct. 8, 1931
Amsterdam Municipality
Noord-Holland, Netherlands
Death: Feb. 5, 2009
New York
New York County (Manhattan)
New York, USA

age: 77 yrs 3 mos 28 days

Edith Windsor and Thea Spyer were together for more than 40 years when Spyer died in 2009.

info below submitted by Ellis & Lynn

Dr. Thea Clara Spyer was a clinical psychologist in private practice in Manhattan. She graduated from the New School for Social Research and received a master's degree in clinical psychology from City University of New York and a Ph.D. in that subject from Adelphi. Dr. Spyer was the daughter of the late Elisabeth Ketellapper and the late Willem Spyer, who lived in Amsterdam.

Dr. Spyer met Edith Schlain Windsor (Edie) in 1965 at Portofino, a restaurant in the West Village. "Everyone lived in the closet," Edie said of lesbian life in New York in the 1960s. "The only place to go was bars, and they were rough." Adjourning to a friend's apartment that night, Thea and Edie danced until the party ended, finally "dancing with our coats on, and other people standing at the door, annoyed, waiting for us," Edie added, "Thea was smarter than hell, beautiful and sexy." Thea recalled that, "We danced so much and so intensely that Edie danced a hole through her stockings."

Created by: Marilyn
Record added: Mar 01, 2011
Find A Grave Memorial# 66338343
Thea Spyer
Added by: Ellis & Lynn
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Yesterday your darling wife helped bring to this country what you had both been fighting for since your historic court battle against DOMA only three years before that fateful day - equal love for all. Because of both your and her actions, we have success...(Read more)
- GentilleAlouette
 Added: Jun. 27, 2015
You and Edie were the coolest! I wish I could have been around back in the day with you two! Rest in peace Thea, you would be proud of your Edie for what she has accomplished for our community. She is my HERO!!!
- Elisa Ponce
 Added: Jul. 6, 2013
♥ Thinking of you in Heaven
- Pixie Owens💕Huntley
 Added: Apr. 23, 2013
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