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Rufus Deming
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Birth: Jul. 14, 1792
Plymouth County
Massachusetts, USA
Death: May 1, 1880
Arroyo Grande
San Luis Obispo County
California, USA

San Luis Obispo, California: SAN LUIS OBISPO TRIBUNE, May 8, 1880

In this city, May 1st, 1880, Rufus Deming, aged 81 years, 1 month and 18 days. This would make his birth date as 12 Mar 1799. (The year seems to be off some as he changed his age throughout his migration)

This same front page of the Tribune had this: A GOOD MAN GONE. Death of an Aged and Useful Citizen

On Saturday last, Father Rufus Deming died at his residence in this city. The following brief sketch of his eventful life is furnished by one who knew him well:

The deceased was a native of the State of Massachusetts. Many years ago he emigrated to Illinois, where some of his children still reside. He came to California in 1858 (sic - it was before 1855), and settled in Napa county, where he resided for eighteen years. Soon after coming to California, he lost his fourth wife, (Deming, Mary Ann ) and in 1856 was married to Miss Jane Love, who now survives him.

Father Deming has spent a long, active and useful life. As a citizen, he has been deeply interested in all that pertained to the welfare of his country; as a neighbor he as always merited and received the confidence and esteem of those who knew him, while to his family he has been a devoted husband and father.

In Napa county he had many friends, who will remember him with pleasure. Coming to San Luis Obispo nine years ago, he has made numerous friends here who will not soon forget him. Early in life he made a profession of religion, and united with the Christian Church, to which he was devotedly attached. For many years he was a local minister in the M. E. Church. He was a faithful worker in the cause and exemplified his profession by an upright and consistent life. One who had been intimate with him for twenty-five years, part of the time living in the same house, told the writer that he had never known him to manifest anger, though he had seen his feelings hurt so that he would weep like a child, yet he had no resentment. Though years of affliction impaired his mental vigor, his faith was strong, his hope ardent, and he was cheerful in view of his expected change. His aged companion and many friends have the sympathy of all their neighbors.

A portion of his Obituary is printed on page 284 in the History of San Luis Obispo County, California, Valley Publishers, Fresno, California, 1979. In the San Luis Obispo County History Book are description of the various churches and while Rufus' obituary mentions the M. E. Church and the Christian Church, Rufus is not mentioned among the names with the Methodist Episcopal Church in San Luis Obispo but does state: "The ministers of the various churches often held services in the other towns of the county, and organizations of societies were made and churches built, and the ministers of other localities often preached in San Luis Obispo. The Christians, or Campbellites, have been represented by Rev, Mr. Wright, Rev. Rufus Deming, and others…"

Contributed by Margaret Hinton
Family links: 
  Mary Ann Farra Deming (1799 - 1855)*
  Jane Blake Deming (1805 - 1892)*
  Joseph Deming (1822 - 1884)*
  Esther Elizabeth Deming Cobb (1826 - 1900)*
  William F Deming (1828 - 1851)*
*Calculated relationship
Father Aged 81 yrs 1 mo 18 days
Arroyo Grande Cemetery
Arroyo Grande
San Luis Obispo County
California, USA
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Originally Created by: Andy Devine
Record added: Dec 15, 2009
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Rufus Deming
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Father of Esther Deming Cobb who was wife of John Cobb, part of Lake County history.
- Judy
 Added: Dec. 1, 2016
Rest in Peace, from another Napa & Lake County Resident
 Added: Jul. 28, 2014

- DK
 Added: Feb. 23, 2013

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