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Pamela Sue "Pam" Nutt Durbin
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Birth: Apr. 27, 1951, USA
Death: Mar., 1981
Newton County
Missouri, USA

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PAMELA SUE was the adopted daughter of:

Chief of the Detective Division
Joplin Police Force

Never could a child ever have been more
desired or loved than this wee baby was when
she entered the arms of this household. She
was an only child - and for this family named
Nutt, the world revolved around PAM!


Carl Nutt, (as a member of the Joplin Police as well as Pam's new Daddy ) had just broken a huge kidnapping and murder mystery. Carl had discovered the murdered Mosser family's remains.
One day while out driving, the Mosser's had picked up a Joplin hitch-hiker who pulled a gun on them. He forced the carload to drive him all over the Southwest and eventually back to Joplin, where he shot each and disposed of their remains. This was a headline news story across the nation! Yet for Carl, the most moving part of the tragedy was the senseless loss of the innocent, little Mosser daughter.

The Nutt parents were both so very moved by this little girl's death, they named their child - whose life was just beginning - for the little girl whose life was stolen away -- PAMELA SUE.

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The Nutt family dwelt in a 1920's era bungalow in the 2400 block of Virginia St. in Joplin, Missouri. Carl & Goldie lived in that home for about 70 yrs.
(NOTE** Following Goldie's demise, robbers broke-in, stole keepsakes and set the place ablaze. Much was damaged and it was undergoing a restoration. The tornado of May 2011 completely destroyed the site, barely leaving the cement foundation of the once beloved home place.)

The front door was always open and everyone was welcome at the Nutt house. It was full of delicious cooking aromas and a good-time was always promised when you walked through the
front door! There were comfy chairs and lots of family heirlooms. Framed photographs of family, and especially pretty Pam, graced the place.
Atop the television set was a wonderful, special clock that featured a lil' blonde headed girl in a swing. This served as a sort of pendulum as the figure of the fair-child would would move to and fro. It served as a living room night-light too -- and fascinated all the children-visitors (and adults too.) Several were certain PAM herself, was the inspiration for that yellow-haired child inside the clock!)

PAM's bedroom featured a wall of shelves above the bed. It displayed a variety of pretty dolls. Favorites of Pam were:
(1) a Terry Lee doll - with dark hair and eyes (2) a Bonnie Braids doll - (which was the perfect choice) as this cartoon-character inspired doll was a character from the Sunday Funnies; She was the daughter of the Police Detective / Dick Tracy - and Pam was the daughter of a Police Detective too!

Christmas 1960 PAM was given a Patty Playpal doll. It had dark hair, a dress with pinafore featuring strawberry trimmings. The doll was as large as a real 3 yr old child! Pamela also got a new tweed gray / black & white coat along with a red hat. Santa was generous that memorable holiday season!

PAM kept all of her childhood friends.
They treasured her...

PAMELA SUE attended:
* Irving Elementary School,
* South Junior High School
(where she was a cheerleader)
* Parkwood High School in Joplin, Mo.
graduating in the Class of 1969

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She grew into a stunning woman with a lovely figure, beautiful face and flaxen gold hair. Sadness was woven into her life. A marriage - a baby - then death - then followed by a joy filled fresh start with a new love - the illness... Her life was like rick-rack, it was up and down.

PAM was married twice

killed in an accident on an oil rig
in the Gulf of Mexico

The couple had a baby -
(A mirror-image of her Mother
only slightly taller)

#2 HUSBAND - Ronnie G. Durbin
DOD - 17 Nov 2005
(died due to cancer)


Tragically, Pam developed cancer. She was taken to specialists all over the nation seeking help. Following a prolonged illness, in the warmth of an early spring, she died.


PAM's parents purchased the two burial sites beside her final resting place. Once, while visiting the cemetery, a serious discussion evolved. It concerned which of the parents would actually be buried next to Pam. After much discussion it was finally settled with a toss of a coin. Pam's mother Goldie, lost. When she was in her late 90's, Mrs Nutt still retold the amusing story, always adding that
she kept her word. (When Pam's Daddy passed away, he was placed in the middle grave site.)


Decades after PAMELA SUE's demise, several of the South Junior High cheerleaders - now grown women - took Goldie out for lunch on what would have been Pam's birthday. A photo of that happy group of 13-14 year old girls in red & white uniforms had never been removed from its place of importance on the wall. This luncheon happened only once, but it meant the world to Goldie - because it showed her darling daughter. . .
Sweet Pamela - was not forgotten.

♥*☼*♥ FINAL WORDS ♥*☼*♥

"Once upon a time,
in a far away land -
lived a beautiful little girl
with sunshine-in-her hair

If only real life was as sweet
as a fairy tale with an assured
ending of:

"And, they lived happily
ever after."

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Reference note:
Pam's Maternal Grandmother -
Goldie Nutt's mother is:
Hattie Meador Fararr
She is buried in The Harvey Cemetery
LaRussell, Mo.
Family links: 
  Carl Eugene Nutt (1912 - 2001)
  Goldie Clementine Farrar Nutt (1912 - 2009)
  Ronald G. Durbin (1947 - 2005)
Ozark Memorial Park Cemetery
Jasper County
Missouri, USA
Maintained by: NJBrewer
Originally Created by: Jody
Record added: Nov 20, 2005
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Pamela Sue Pam <i>Nutt</i> Durbin
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