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Nellie May "Helen" Tabor Patterson
Birth: Apr. 18, 1886
Rockingham County
New Hampshire, USA
Death: Jan. 25, 1973
Essex County
Massachusetts, USA

Helen was born Nellie May Tabor. She was the daughter of Charles P. and Mary E. (Roundy) Tabor. My great grandmother's family didn't have a lot of money. However, there was always a roof over their heads and food on the table. They lived in a rural and isolated area. Nellie went to Big Island Pond and Governor's Island in Hampstead with her family and friends when she was a child and young adult. She enjoyed the simple life of the late 1800s and early 1900s of picnics,swimming,playing in the sand and dances. When I was about ten I came across an old violin one day that was put away in storage. My mother told me that my great grandmother had learned to play it when she was young. Helen's brother Roy accidentally chopped off two of her fingers while he was chopping wood. I never noticed the loss of these fingers. She hid it well. By 1905 Helen and her family moved to Haverhill,Mass,where her father opened up a grocery store "Tabor's Market" at 26 Winter Street. They lived at 31 Pleasant Street in Haverhill -Bradford. Eventually they moved to 28 17th Avenue. Helen is listed on the 1910 federal census as having worked as Private Housekeeper for a family. My great grandmother married Joseph D. Patterson on November 5,1913 in a simple wedding with just family in Haverhill. They went to New York City for their honeymoon and saw the play "Adele". Nine months to the day they had their first child,a girl. It just seemed the right thing to do so they named her "Adele". Shortly after Nellie and Joe got married she began going by "Helen". She didn't like the name Nellie at all. It wasn't until several years after my great grandmother's passing that I learned that Helen wasn't her birth name. When they lived on 16 Webster Street in Haverhill they had three boarders living with them. One of them was Helen's cousin Ada Ranlett. The other two were middle age men. My grandmother(Adele)told me on a couple of occasions that when her family lived on Webster Street and at 6 Park Street in Haverhill that those were some of the best times of her childhood. Her cousins Arnold,Lois,Julia and Marjorie lived close by. They all had some really good times. My great grandmother liked living near their parents, Harry and Stella,who were her in laws. Helen and her children had a lot of good memories of living near them. In 1930 Helen was listed as having paid $54.00 a month for the Park Street apartment. Joseph predeceased her in 1929. Helen and Joe also had two sons. Charles S.(1916-1934) and Paul(1919-1960). Her children were all under 18 when their father died. Helen was determined to provide a good home for her children. Without Joseph's income it was hard at time for her to support her children. Despite some hard times Helen took in borders and worked as an electrologist. There was always a roof over their heads, food on their table and clothes on them. My great grandmother was a proprietor of a candy booth and magazine stand in the 1930s and 1940s. Helen and her son Paul ran it. The income from it helped support the family. The booth was located in the entrance of the former Haverhill National Bank,on the corner of Merrimack and Emerson Streets in Haverhill. Today Bank of America occupies the building. The ATM machine is located where Helen's booth was. For awhile there Helen and her family lived on Emerson Street in Haverhill. Eventually she moved to 178 Main Street. In the late 1940s she moved into a cottage at 210 Main Street. My great grandmother really liked living in the cottage. She was the only tenant there as it was a single family residence. There was a frog pond in the back. From what my aunt Ann and mother have told me it was a rather peaceful place. In 1959 she was forced to move when an IGA supermarket and other stores were going to be built where her house stood. She then moved to the second floor apartment at 196 Mill Street,Haverhill where she lived until her passing. Her son Paul lived with his mother throughout his life. Paul had polio and needed assistance. In turn he provided his mother with companionship. After Paul died in 1960 unexpectedly of a heart attack at the age of 41,my great grandmother lived by herself for the first time in her life. Paul was her second son to die and it really effected her. For awhile there she took in a couple of boarders for extra money,mainly for companionship though. My mother lived(Sheila)lived with her before she got married. Eventually her daughter and her husband moved into the apartment below. When Adele' husband died in 1966 she moved in with her mother upstairs. My great grandmother,having outlived her husband,sons,a brother,great grandson and son in law maintained a lot of inner strength and resilience to help her get through her losses. She was one of the strongest people I knew. Helen had what she referred to as a "gentleman friend" in the years following her husband's untimely passing. They went out to dinner and the movies and family get togethers. Charlie Sleeper of Plaistow,New Hampshire provided her with companionship up until his passing of cancer in the late 1960s. In her latter years she watched the soap opera "Days of Our Lives" religiously. I'll always remember being over over at her house watching the sand timer which was the opening of the show. I remember having really good dinners of roast beef and macaroni and cheese at her house. A couple of times she went with my grandmother and took me out for a sundae at Friendly's. Once we went to Hampstead and she showed me the house that she grew up in. Treasured memories that I'll never forget.. When I was eight I went with my mother when she took my great grandmother Christmas shopping in 1972 at the former Mitchell's Department Store on Merrimack Street in Haverhill. Helen was beginning to get very weak and sickly. She was unable to finish her shopping. I waited with her on a bench while my mother got Helen's gifts. Afterwards she came down to my house and was so tired that she had to take a nap. I'd never seen her so weak before. For her last Christmas my great grandmother went with her daughter and granddaughter Martha to Pittsfield,Maine. They visited Helen's granddaughter Ann. By early 1973 her condition had deteriorated rapidly. In early January 1973 Helen was admitted to the now defunct Hale Hospital in Haverhill. Her age had really caught up with her. My great grandmother had gotten through breaking her hip a few years earlier. This time she was too sick to fight back. She passed away of pneumonia and natural causes at the age of eighty-six on the morning of January 25, 1973. She had lived a rather hard life at times and was finally at peace. I'll always remember her as someone who loved her family dearly. She had begun her life riding in a horse and buggy. At the end of it the world was a whole different place with automobiles,cars,TV and countless other inventions from the twentieth century. My great grandmother was raised in the Victorian era and by the time she died a man had landed on the moon. Helen would always buy the best of everything. She felt that you got what you paid for. Whenever I buy anything I remember that. Helen is buried along side of her husband and sons. I was about nine when she passed on. I'll always remember her as having been a very nice,caring and loving person. I always enjoyed staying overnight at her house. It was a lot of fun. She left her daughter Adele L. Patterson(1914-1999) and brothers Leroy "Roy" M. (1882-1947) and Walter I. Tabor (1896-1979). Helen had three granddaughters. Sheila R. (Ryan) Hatch (1939-2012),Ann L. and Martha J. Ryan (1945-2004) Ryan. Helen had eleven great grandchildren. David E.,Paul W.,Peter J. and Christopher Hatch,Lisa A. and Lynne A., Ernest W. (1975-1999) Stein,Matthew Jude (Stillborn:1969),Catherine S. and Michael P. Meredith. She also had several nieces and cousins.

Family links: 
  Charles Pardon Tabor (1855 - 1916)
  Mary Elizabeth Roundy Tabor (1860 - 1922)
  Joseph Daniel Patterson (1876 - 1929)
  Adele Louise Patterson Ryan, LPN (1914 - 1999)*
  Charles Joseph Patterson (1916 - 1934)*
  Paul Sidney Patterson (1919 - 1960)*
  Leroy Warren Tabor (1881 - 1947)*
  Nellie May Tabor Patterson (1886 - 1973)
*Calculated relationship
Linwood Cemetery
Essex County
Massachusetts, USA
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