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R. Colleen Sherwood Lushell
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Eulogy Read at Mom's Funeral, May 18, 2011: Thank you all for coming here today to help us, as a family, to heal, and to celebrate our mother's life.Mom was a precious lady who was loving, caring, and generous, and she touched each of our hearts in many different ways. She gave so much of herself to everyone she loved. Each of you brought her great pleasure and an abundance of love. Mom would be very pleased and honored to see that all of you could make it here this morning to share in this with us, as it was her family and friends who were the most important focus of her life. It was also your continued visits, support, well wishes, and prayers which were so valuable to her, and to us, in her final days. Those of you who provided love and friendship throughout mom's life are too numerous to mention, but we thank you for being there for her. She was certainly blessed with many good friends. My parents were married for 48 years. When dad died in 1999, mom's life changed dramatically, and she missed him dearly. After dad's death, her family remained a great source of strength, joy and, no doubt, aggravation. During her final days, mom several times had a "conversation" with dad. One evening she asked me to "tell Wally that he doesn't have to buy me new clothes." I thought about her comment, and maybe it was the hospice nurse who cleared it up in my mind when she said that dad was helping her through the process, and was there to guide her home. If mom were here with us today, speaking to us, I think she would talk about her own family; how grateful she was to her parents, and to her brothers and sisters, all of whom she adored. She'd tell you how much she loved dad, and how proud she was of her four children and her daughters- and sons-in-law. And then, she'd tell you how very, very proud she was of "her three boys" - Kyle, Reid, and Cooper. They were her world, and they brought a huge amount of joy to her life. She was proud of their accomplishments and enjoyed watching them grow into the loving, caring, and handsome young men that they are today. She was there for many milestones in their lives and enjoyed every minute of it. Never has a grandmother loved her grandsons more than she did. One evening as we sat together in her hospital room, she and I were talking about the end of her life being near, and she said, "I'm going to miss my three boys." She could never know how much more they will miss their grandma. Kyle and Reid wanted her to know that she didn't have to worry about them, and that she will forever live in their hearts and minds -- and I know she will. Today when I close my eyes -- and I'm sure this goes for Mike, Carol, and Mark as well -- and we think about mom, we see her smiling, laughing, worrying about all of us, asking us to "get along with each other", and loving each one of us equally. I see mom and dad sitting on the screen porch with Kricks or Dusings, enjoying a glass of iced tea on a hot summer evening; I see her enjoying many dinners with Mike, and happy about Mike and Chris's marriage. I see her sitting around the fire pit, enjoying a glass of wine and conversation with Mark and Marcia; and I see her being loved and well taken care of by Carol and Scott. I close my eyes and I can see her walking hand in hand with Bob up the steps of the Lincoln Memorial in Washington DC last November. I see her attending baptisms; confirmations; birthday dinners; kindergarten, eighth grade, and high school graduations; sporting events; and everything else that involved Kyle, Reid, and Cooper. I see her enjoying her "Saturday luncheons" with Louise, JoAnne, Dorothy, Karen, Carol, Marcia, the two Sherrys, and me. I see her looking out over the ocean and enjoying the cruises and trips to Ocean Isle that we took together as a family. We certainly have shared a lot of good times together and have many wonderful memories. I think mom said it best when she told the doctor that she's had a good life -- she really did. To be honest, I think it's impossible for each of us to think about our lives without mom. I believe if I said to her that "I can't go on without you," or "I don't know how to live without you," she'd say, "You will be fine." And so, I will; we all will. In closing, let me say that in the last few days of her life, I found mom to be almost more awe-inspiring than ever. I can't imagine myself being able to meet death with even one-tenth of the strength and dignity that I observed in her. Believe me, it was hard for her, but she never complained and she never asked for pity. She was aware of her surroundings and fought right up until her very last breath. While mom is not here in the flesh, she is definitely here in spirit. With all of that being said, thank you, mom, for your memories and for your love, but most of all, thank you for being our mother. Rest in peace, my beautiful, sweet momma.
- Debi Lushell Ware
 Added: Jun. 1, 2011

- Beth Clifton
 Added: May. 17, 2011
Remembering our days working together at the Durbin Hotel in Rushville. You as the waitress and me as the busboy.
- Greg Raike
 Added: May. 17, 2011

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